Bunny Oliver and I with Rosario and her girls
Bunny Oliver and I with Rosario and her girls

A Day That Changed My Life

In early November, I went on a trip with Art Ambassador for a Colorful World. AAFCW was taking a groups of artists to Guatemala with an organization called Xela AID. Primarily a painting trip, the ten days in Guatemala included several days in the Guatemalan highlands bringing art to the children in that area. 

 

One day, while we were setting up to paint portraits of local women, Leslie Baer Dinkel, the founder and chair of Xela AID, asked me and another painter, Bunny, if we would discuss an issue that was taking place with one of the children. Martina, an 11-year-old girl, whom Bunny was sponsoring in the education program, had drawn a very disturbing picture in the classroom downstairs, indicating to the staff that something was very wrong at home. The staff brought in Martina’s mother, Rosario, who tearfully confirmed that Martina's drawing was true. Martina’s stepfather and grandfather had been routinely physically and mentally abusing Martina, her younger sister, Julia, and Rosario while the two littlest girls, ages three and four, looked on. Horrified, we listened to the details of the abuse. They needed our help, and there was no question in my mind that we could offer it.

 



Rosario would have to leave her house with her four girls immediately. This very frail mother, only twenty-eight years old, had to agree to all the terms set up by the staff, who had dealt with similar scenarios before: the two men were forbidden to come near her and her daughters; she would work at a paying job at Xela headquarters; she would learn to read and write; and she and her and older daughters would attend therapy sessions from the on-site therapist. She readily agreed.
 
The Xela AID staff went to work immediately: within a half hour, they found her a new house. Simultaneously, another staff member set up a job at the Xela facilities for Rosario, on a salary twice what she made picking potatoes in the fields. Within moments, the staff began the process for all of the daughters’ enrollments in school, in the sunny Xela classrooms in the same building. The staff called the lawyer to begin restraining order proceedings. It was then I learned of the extreme corruption of the police, making the enforcement negligible. I looked at Leslie and her staff in pure amazement as the phone calls ended and the pieces started coming together in rapid succession. I signed up to pay for the house, the furnishings, and Rosario's salary to ensure a safe home and some financial independence for them. Bunny would be paying for Martina's education. Together we committed to helping this family in the coming years. Rosario stared tearfully in disbelief. She explained she had never been loved or helped by anyone. It was overwhelming for all of us. Unbelievably, all of these expenses for an entire year will come to less than one-month’s rent in the United States.

Rosario has a lot of hard work to do, changing her life and her childrens' overnight. We knew it was hard for her to understand, let alone promise. There would be formidable challenges. But we had to try.
 
We brought Rosario and her four girls into the room next door for a wonderful hot lunch. The sad faces we had seen in the morning vanished. As we watched them finish every morsel on their plates, we wondered when they had last had a hot meal. We had found out that morning that it was Martina’s birthday, and her sister Julia's was the Sunday before. After this wonderful meal the Xela staff had prepared, they topped it off with two large glowing birthday cakes. Joy erupted from everyone in the room and the singing began. Moments later, Martina and Julia sang their Happy Birthday song together. The family had not had a birthday celebration for ten years. 

 

 

After lunch, the six of us drove Rosario and her four girls to see their new house. Unlike her one-room house with a single mattress on the dirt floor, this house had several rooms, glass windows, electricity, running water and doors that locked. It overlooked the hills. More smiles and screeches of joy broke out, especially when Martina and Julia discovered the playground next door.

 

 

 

After we all agreed that the new house would work well for the family, a group of us piled into the van with Rosario and the two littlest girls and drove to her house.  As one group went into her old house to retrieve her belongings, I stayed in the van with Elmer (who works with Xela AID), and the youngest girls.  While we were hiding in the way back of the car, both Elmer and I held back tears as the four-year-old whispered to us about some of the painful and unimaginable abuse, and expressed her fear, desperation, and eagerness to leave her house. Moments later Rosario’s possessions were piled into the back of the van, filling two small laundry baskets. 

 

We dropped the family off at the new house, and seven of us piled back into the van and went to San Juan to get new furnishings: three beds, a futon and pillows with a cheery floral print, and a plastic table with four chairs - unbelievably, it amounted to less than dinner for two. We were not even fully out of the car before the older girls came squealing out of their new house and leaping into our arms. Their own bed? It was as much my joy as theirs, emotions I have rarely experienced and will never forget.
As we left Rosario and her beautiful daughters, I knew it was the biggest dream she could imagine. At this moment it seemed like everything was possible. I looked at them tearfully, wishing I could stay and spend more time with all of them, and I thought ,“You can do this Rosario. You have help now.” 

Four hours. Five lives that could change forever. The challenges will be great, as it is for any victim of abuse, but I went away that day optimistic for their future knowing Xela AID would be there for them.  

 

I have been receiving updates about the family, which will be in my next blog post.

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10 Responses to A Day That Changed My Life

An unforgettable experience, Anne. It was an honor to be involved with you in providing an opportunity for this young family to escape the horrible situation they were in. You have captured the emotions of the day beautifully.

Here's wishing for them the happy ending is a forever ending.. I saw this kind of abuse in our own country, yes situations as bad., when I was a. Day Care teacher in Cambridge, Boston Public schools and a volunteer at Children's Hospital.. Sadly it happens in our own back yard with none around to believe them or be able to help so expediently. It's really wonderful to read such a fast intervention. I wish that for all a used children.

Anne,
What an incredible story - truly life-changing for all involved.

Anne, how wonderful to hear about the your art trip that led to good works on your part and hopefully a true problem solved. Such a horrifying story.
This recent painting is beautiful Your technique continues to refine. So impressed.

Annie, it is hard to put into words how powerfully moved I am by reading this, and hearing about it from you. You have had a profound life altering experience- for you and this family -it's as close to Divine Intervention as I understand the meaning of those big words..
I am eager to hear how this story unfolds, and watch you expand with it. You have so much to offer!

Moved to tears! To have such impact in so short a time!!!! Your generous spirit will bring more good to unfold as it should. Wishes for continued safety for this young family. You show that good can successfully combat brutality! Thank you for sharing!!!

Dearest Annie, As with the others here, I am moved, impressed and inspired by your story and beautiful writing. Your combination of generosity, courage and practical action are a wonder. How Betty and Lester would love this. Eager to hear more. ❤️

PS That little squiggle at the end of the heart!

I have always seen you as a generous caring person. I have been impressed by your commitment and passion for art so I am not surprised that you stepped up and made such a dramatic investment (emotionally and financially) to change the lives of a young family. I am looking forward to hearing how they progress through all the challenges they will face. Your Blog is amazing.

Anne- oh my!!!!..... unbelievable (of course) and yet also remarkable that you and your friends were there in the right place at the right time. Thanks to you for your perseverance, persistence and push through to make all the right things happen for these women. Keep me informed - we can chat soon!


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